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BRITTANY DALE

I am currently going through a very stressful time in my life due to money problems, disliking my job and relationship problems with many people in my life.







BRITTANY DALE

2018-02-18 23:21:17

Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

I am currently going through a very stressful time in my life due to money problems, disliking my job and relationship problems with many people in my life.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

Unlike past stressful or sad times, I am finding it really difficult to cope and try to overcome the problems I am having now. In previous situations I've always had an someone or something as a positive distraction to help me find my "happy place", whereas this time I have had a hard time finding that someone or something. So, to answer the question I am still trying to find a way to overcome it.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

I have always had a lot of support in my life between my family and friends. I feel like I have that support now from my mom, dad, friends, and boyfriend.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

Like I said before, this time I am having a hard time finding that something or someone that will help me find my "happy place", even if its temporary. In the past, music and going on drives really helped me to cope with whatever problems I was having and help lift my mood.

2018-02-13 12:28:54

Where to go in the next step of life.







2018-02-13 12:28:54



Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

Where to go in the next step of life. I work a lot I can afford my bills but now I want to do more. I stress a lot and overthink so thinking about problems all at once stresses me out.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

Write it down one by one what do to to fix my problems or what thinks I like and try to read over it and just try to overcome the stress even though I still stress and do the same thing. That’s somewhat relieving to write it down or do the things you say your going to do.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

Yes friends just there to listen because no one can help me find my happiness but me just to be there and listen and be friend is all right for me.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

Music in general helps me a lot, and jogging outside getting some fresh air. Being out somewhere different from your everyday routine is a getaway.

2018-02-13 06:23:30

When my wife of 18 years wanted a divorse.







2018-02-13 06:23:30



Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

When my wife of 18 years wanted a divorse.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

I kept busy, met someone that showed me that there is more life ahead which kept me positive.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

Yes, multiple people mostly women helped me forget about what I was going thru.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

No song book or movie.

D DUBB

When my partner of 51 years suddenly passed.







D DUBB

2018-02-08 22:26:46

Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

When my partner of 51 years suddenly passed.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

Still learning to overcome doing everything for myself. Cooking has been the hardest and my eating habits prove that.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

Family members were there in the beginning but not so much anymore.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

Golfing has been an out.

LIZA

Applying to college definitely made me feel anxious and stressed. Being the first in my family to go to college made it so I had to figure out everything on my own.







LIZA

2018-02-06 19:13:45

Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

Applying to college definitely made me feel anxious and stressed. Being the first in my family to go to college made it so I had to figure out everything on my own.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

It’s still a stressful time but not as stressful as the beginning. Now it’s more about balencing school, work, and a social life without wearing my self thin. What helped was cutting ambivalent relationships and only doing things I enjoy and not falling into the peer pressure of having the do what I don’t want to.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

After high school, it was very lonely. My friends were also focused on their own journey and many moved far away, so I spend a lot of time by myself. I lost a lot of friends from lack of communication or difference in interests but I also made some friends a long the way. It’s still a work in progress since life feels so busy and it is hard to make time to nurture relationships/friendships but It’s just something I still work on. My family was also a consistent support group during that time. Because even if they couldn’t help me financially, they were very emotionally supportive.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

Well Netflix definitely was there for me. I don’t know if that was a good or bad thing though because even though it kept me busy, i wasted a lot of time that’s I could have used to make more friends or learn other skills. But still thankful to Netflix because it’s the best.

2018-02-06 14:00:38

My disabled grandmother was dying from heart disease.







2018-02-06 14:00:38



Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

My disabled grandmother was dying from heart disease. It took her two years to die and my mom had to stay with her for four months until she went to a nursing home six weeks before her death. It was hard to not have my mom at home. Dad would take us there after school every night for supper, but it was hard to not have Mom at home.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

My parents told us to take one day at a time and trust in God.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

My parents and the people in the church helped a lot.

2018-02-05 23:25:46

When diagnosed with cancer







2018-02-05 23:25:46



Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

When diagnosed with cancer

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

By taking it one day at a time

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

Friends and family calling or emailing me to check up on me

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

Reading anything would get me to focus on something else

2018-02-05 22:39:45

Meeting with parents of a student that verbally attack and threaten my job.







2018-02-05 22:39:45



Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

Meeting with parents of a student that verbally attack and threaten my job.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

Still trying to overcome...I work hard on keeping positive thoughts, like the progress that student is making, or the big hug 1ay grader in the hall.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

discussing the situation with a fellow teacher can remind me of how hard I work and that I am an excellent teacher.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

Audiobooks help me to escape my stress. Uplifting stories of courage or eccentric sad stories...sometimes even a simple zombie book on my drive to school!

VICKY

I’ve had two anxiety attacks in my life. A week and a half ago was the second one.







VICKY

22018-02-05 20:38:49

Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

I’ve had two anxiety attacks in my life. A week and a half ago was the second one. I was in Disneyland with my mom, my husband, and our two granddaughters who are 8. We were in line for the ride Cars. Unbeknownst to me the line was an hour wait, had I known it was an hour I wouldn’t have been in the line. Perhaps that set the tone for me once we were in line for forty minutes and I was told it was to be an hour, I was angry. There was an announcement made that the ride had broke down and our wait time would increase. We were given the opportunity to leave, back through the way we came (long line), my mom is in her 70’s and riding on a scooter to ease the amount of walking she had to do. The thought of going through the crowd with her and the scooter made me anxious and more angry. I kept quiet because it wouldn’t do any good to express my anger to my family who was just as frustrated. There was a man, woman, and teenage boy behind me that kept crowding me. I was attempting to keep a distance behind my mom’s scooter so she could safely maneuver through the switchback chain line separators. Those people kept pushing into my personal space. As 50 minutes past, then an hour, an another announcement came across stating that the ride was now 90 minutes. This meant an additional 30 minutes, with people all around me winding back and forth, crowding me. The woman in the group began to cough, and cough as through she was ill. I began to panic, that I would catch a virus from her. I tried squeezing between my mom’s scooter and the line separator, I finally got through, and passed her. I told my husband I was leaving. He wanted me to come closer to him but I told him if I did I would cry. At the turn where you can get on the ride I left, went into the bathroom and sobbed.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

I left the park with my mom and went back to the resort. Sat in the hot tub and had a glass of wine. Even typing about that situation make me feel anxious again.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

Having an understanding husband and friends who have experienced anxiety helps. I’m 51 and going through menopause. I have several friends who have never experienced anxiety until they were in menopause. It helps to talk with them.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

The next day we went back to the park. I walked a lot. Didn’t stay in one place. That helped me focus on the walking activity instead of all the people.

2018-02-05 20:12:15

When people in my family were depressed and suicidal.







2018-02-05 20:12:15



Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

When people in my family were depressed and suicidal.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

I found that I had to let go of my expectations for myself and the people I love. I had to realize that I can't always fix things and it's OK.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

I am blessed with many close friends who let me cry on their shoulders and talk things out. Sometimes it was just knowing they were a phone call away, even if I didn't call.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

This might sound crazy, but re-reading all 7 Harry Potter books gave my brain a much needed break. I also loved the song, "Something Beautiful" by NeedtoBreathe. I listened to it every day.

TABATHA

Applying for a new and totally different job than I was used to.

The death of my mom!!!







TABATHA

2018-02-05 20:02:11

Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

Applying for a new and totally different job than I was used to.

The death of my mom!!!

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

I still get a little anxious when they want me to do something at work I’ve never done, but I think to myself, “You Got This” and overcome it!

I think it will be a while to get over my mom’s death.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

My husband being with me throughout ALL OF IT! He’s the best!!

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

Not really!

GABI MCKENZIE

The 8 months after June 19th. After I graduated I was incredibly anxious.







GABI MCKENZIE

2018-02-05 18:07:17

Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

The 8 months after June 19th. After I graduated I was incredibly anxious. I’m lucky in that I don’t suffer from clinical depression or anxiety; I know a lot of people who do and I’ve seen how they deal and adjust and seek help with their own struggles so I don’t wish to deemphasize from their plight. My own stress and anxiety and low moments are incomparable! Anyways. After I graduated with my art degree and I had just completed this monster of a beast filled with stress and anxious moments, I felt release for like, 2 seconds before I started freaking out again. I didn’t have a job lined up or interviews that had been successful like (what I saw as) most of my peers.

I had been working retail for the last 4 years and I was OVER IT, and yet I had to get 2 more retail jobs to be able to pay all my bills along with a litte bit of help from my parents in the month overlap between retail interviews and the position (I am so lucky I have my parents as a resource!). I felt like I was wasting my time applying for retail jobs when I only wanted a career, but I wasn’t hearing back from any career positions and I had to make money.

Working multiple retail jobs is the worst, if you didn’t already know this. I would be closing at one shop at 10:30pm and wouldn’t get home until 11ish 11:30, and then I would open at the other shop at 10:00 in the morning. I wouldn’t have 2 consecutive days off in a row ever. Sometimes I would work 4 hour shifts on the days I was supposed to be off to cover for people. Meanwhile I somehow wasn’t getting enough hours between the two due to travel time and unpaid lunch breaks and canceled shifts. And as each week passed more and more of my friends were getting jobs!! I barely had time to piece together a solid application and then I would apply to 20 in a batch and not even receive a rejection email from one.

As each day passed I could feel my skills drifting away and I was terrified at losing my passion for what I got my degree in. I was comparing myself to others. Feeling awful about myself. The uncertainty was terrifying, I was anxious about my future and what it would look like, I was stressed because of the amount of running around town and standing I was doing, my body was always exhausted. I was just in this place where a single email could change my life in the matter of 2 weeks! In so many ways my life would be shifted: my location, my income level, my amount of sleep, my health (healthcare from a salary!!!! Woah!!), the freedom from my parents monetarily, their pride instead of their constant nagging, my number of roommates (5 to 0!!) and just a total identity change from student to professional.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

I overcame this time by ultimately getting a job. In a way I’m still in this, I’m still anxious and stressed about my career but not nearly as much as I was. This job that I have now is not the career that I hoped for but it is a career that uses the education I acquired. It does have healthcare, it is a living wage, I live in a studio with zero other people, and I have 2 days off IN A ROW. I’m happy now but I’m still applying to jobs constantly and trying to get that high art-small studio-design job that I dreamed about throughout my education. Ultimately, I had had enough of my previous situation and I couldn’t take it anymore so I jumped on my first chance. Even though my situation and my points of anxiety have been addressed and solved in a sense, I didn’t really fix anything inside myself I guess? But I figured out how to help myself make it through.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

Actually my girl Shannon Dunlop helped me so much. She finished school the term after I did and we both worked at the same retail store, we were the only employees and our shifts overlapped 2 times a week. In between mirror selfies and power stances at work we realized that we were going through the same thing as far as education and our job search went as well as how we were feeling overwhelmed. We were both frustrated and anxious and feeling the stress of money problems, but we were there to hype each other up. It was so easy to doubt your talent when you weren’t getting a job and you weren’t even getting interviews. We were there for each other to remind ourselves that we were boss ladies, that we were talented, that we were fucking SMART!! That we were worth so much and to continue making creatively.

There were other people in my life that kept me sane as well, friends and people I love that made me take time to have fun and to be frivolous, to snag those happy hour deals, to go for a freaking picnic! I ate and shared sooo much safeway French loaves and Brie during this time and shared soooo many big sweet hereafter happy hour 32 ounce boozy lemonades. They made me just go on walks and enjoy the things that make me happy.

They’re all helping me now by still being those supportive forces in my life.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

I watched a ton of Netflix Comedy specials lol. I feel like such an old man saying that, but it was such a little thing that I could turn on while I did the million things that I had to do and I would find myself laughing alone in my room over some stupid joke, holla at John Mulaney.

MARYANA

Sophomore Portfolio was a stressful time, as I'm getting closer to graduation thinking about the future is making me anxious as well.







MARYANA

2018-02-01 16:41:03

Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

Sophomore Portfolio was a stressful time, as I'm getting closer to graduation thinking about the future is making me anxious as well.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

Being around other people who are supportive or are going through the same struggles with you is helpful, also it motivates to know that you're not alone. Distracting yourself with working out or shopping can help short-term but ultimately it's hearing the success stories and seeing a path that can lead you to success helps relieve stress and anxiety long-term.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

My mentor was there for me, as well as people in the design program. Being a part of a club where you see the same people and sharing your weekly experiences helps you get away from the endless amount of work that is piled up.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

Volleyball, painting, drawing, organizing, singing in my car when I'm in traffic, going to inspirational lectures and talks. Helping other people has been a huge inspiration lately, feeling like you're a part of something greater.

SALLY B.

My husband died in a fishing accident on Nov. 21, 2015. I was distraught at first, and over time became depressed about losing my love.







SALLY B.

2018-01-31 17:17:52

Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

My husband died in a fishing accident on Nov. 21, 2015. I was distraught at first, and over time became depressed about losing my love.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

I don’t know that I will ever “overcome” this loss. I am just learning how to deal with life without my husband. I retired from work, and am trying to stay busy by traveling with and to see friends.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

I have had a lot of support from family and friends. My Doctor also prescribed some anti-depression medication that has really helped. My sister and 2ngirl friends stay in touch on a regular basis.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

Physical activity, primarily working in my yard - moving rocks, blowing leaves, pull weeds, clearing brush on the neighbors property has helped me as it makes me concentrate on something and also wears me out physically so I sleep better. And I can see the results.

2018-01-31 14:38:08

My last year, last semester in college, I was in the midst of my student teaching.







2018-01-31 14:38:08



Describe a time in you life that made you feel depressed, anxious, or stressed.

My last year, last semester in college, I was in the midst of my student teaching. I said somethings I shouldn't have said on social media and got fired. My world ended that day or so it felt like it. Even though I knew that I didn't want to teach before going into the student teaching, I still felt as if I let everyone down. I didn't know how my family and teachers would react because this wasn't who I was. For a few days afterward, I laid in my bed in the dark every day, afraid to reach out and constantly worrying I wouldn't be able to graduate; this all mixed with feeling like a total failure and a waste of a person. For the next few months, I was able to scrape together a final project that got me the credit I needed to graduate with a lesser degree, but hated doing it the entire time. I closed myself off from my support systems during this time as well and basically pushed the incident far away in my brain.

How did you overcome that time, or is that time now and you are still trying to overcome it? If so, what are you doing to overcome it?

I did end up graduating so at least, I had a degree and could do something with it. I got a shitty summer job to pass the time. It was awful, but I worked within another socioeconomic class of folx who taught me a lot about what working minimum wage jobs you whole life looks like. They taught me humility and that the past doesn't matter so much. Soon after that job ended, I landed a pretty great job that got me back to working with older students outside of a public school setting. It helped me set on a path to realizing I enjoyed working with students in higher education. It's pushed me to pursue further education in hopes of being in a position that can advocate for marginalized students.

Did you have somebody, or multiple people, who helped you overcome that time? Who and how did they help you or how are they helping you now?

My family was and has always been supportive. They didn't make me feel horrible for mistakes, and instead, lifted me out of my whole. My mom suggested finding a summer job to have something to do in the meantime and then my aunt found my next job. They're proud of where I am now and I couldn't have done it without their unwavering support.

Was there a song, book, movie, or activity that helped you? If so how did it help you?

Patrick Watson's songs "The Great Escape" and "To Build a Home" were great songs to cry to and wish everything would go away. They helped me realize my problems were insignificant and I that I could simply waive goodbye to them and move on. Life isn't static; it's constantly evolving with you and through this song, they inspired me to harness my autonomy, building a home could be relying on my own family, and to get jobs that led to where I am now - living and working a successful job halfway across the country from home and engaged to my wonderful partner.